Hold Your Heart Tenderly so You Can Love Those Around You With Tenderness!

Message For a Friend... You are a vessel my friend; you are a receptacle for your feelings. That means that as much anger, disgust, resentment, rage, sadness, sense of betrayal, defeat... etc. you are feeling. YOU are the person that is holding onto these feelings.

I get that you have this stuff happening but unfortunately, the other people in our lives are not capable of understanding what we are feeling.

They may know how history but no one person could possibly fathom the extent of how we feeling, and the filters that it went through, nor the trauma that came in the form of habits and denials that we also experience because of those feelings.

And like unrequited love, no other person could possibly feel anything close to what we are feeling so no matter how MAD you get, how much ANGER boiling through your veins, it is ONLY YOU that has to deal with the fallout of all of that energy.

Others around you will 'experience' their own blueprint of the situation but their experience is no way near anything that yours can be because we are so unique in ALL ways. 

Like in unrequited love, that other person may not know us but not how we feel, nor to what extent, but that doesn’t make what WE are feeling within ourselves in any LESS THAN if the person in front of us was our partner for 2 days, two years, or twenty... we still experience our own deeply profound, unique, experience when its good, bad, on the rocks, or sublime… it’s OUR experience, not theirs.

And because of that, I am concerned for YOU. Because you have been talking about your feelings, which A)… is great because I know you and a little of your experience… and is good because you are moving these feelings but I would like to see you try to release them. Forgiveness isn’t really about someone else. It’s all you baby… "I release the part of me that ANGERS me when I think of you… I release the part of me that RAGES in me when I think of you. Get it?" You can insert any word in between to get the jist. It will never change. The only change will be... change. But it can only come from you.

I want to see you healthy and happy and obviously life circumstances are challenging you at home but all this energy is going to take you out, not make her feel ONE IOTA LESS OR DIFFERENT than how they feel because their experience, the good, bad, ugly, betraying part of them is a completely different experience that they have from yours. Everything from their upbringing, filters, past betrayals and other relationships all make up a part of the person who stands before you… 

If you both wrote a book, what would each of yours say? Two completely different takes because it comes from two entirely different sources, even if we have lived together for twenty years, those partners are having a very different reality than your understanding of it. So whatever you have to do to release all that toxicity from with you has to be done. You have to make the choices to walk away from the toxicity or it will take you out.

FOR YOUR CHILDREN, you need to be in touch and loving the parts of you that are healthy and happy and sometimes, it takes walking away from the craziness (NO MATTER WHAT AND FOR GOD’S SAKE DON’T LOOK BACK!) for YOU. Which really means for your children who love and adore and desperately you to show them EXACTLY HOW TO WALK THE WALK.

Everything you do, they see. They learn, and then grow into their own experiences that will go like this... either they hate you for what you did and choose to be completely the opposite or they learn the dysfunctional manner that your own story was staged upon. Or they choose to see a happy parent, full of love. Not Bitterness. Don’t you see how much they want your happiness? Need it actually!
YOU, KIMOSABE… are the teacher here. It won’t be an easy journey but it will bring you ultimately what you really do want in life, and what you deserve. A new beginning, a closed door, and hope.

Remember to hold your heart gently. It's fragile... but generous with love for those around you.

Faith~ by Morgana Reeves



unknown photographer but Thank You~

Faith~

A little Faith, even the size of a tiny mustard seed, can bring infinite change.

 

Faith brings growth, from the old, decaying, and dying… 

Faith offers us new life, filled with love, prosperity, peace, and joy. 

Faith cannot prevent difficult things from happening to us...  

But there is no light at the end of the tunnel without Faith, only a path that seems endless, and often daunting… 

Faith makes going through these times bearable!  

With Faith, acceptance is possible and forgiveness is probable. 

Faith is what makes our dreams become part of our everyday reality, as reality sprouts from the seeds of those dreams.  

Faith… a little goes a long way, lighting the darkness, as it becomes the foundation of everything we hold possible, and dear to us.  

Faith is cherishing what is sacred, while believing in the unseen.

Even though we can’t see Faith, Faith is an eternal compass that maps out our direction, so we are never lost.

With Faith, we are never alone, as we are held by the tender loving arms of our angels. 

Faith is the only thing that even when lost, is still firmly nestled in the hearts of others… whose Faith can hold us up, even when we are unable to.

When we are lost or found, up or down, happy, or full of remorse, or regret… Faith will and always be, as tiny as a mustard, and as big as the heart that believes.

                  Happy Holidays~

 

                  xoxo Morgana Reeves

 

copyrights © 12/24/2012

 

What is Love? The Intimate View

A long time ago, I wrote a column called Up Close and Personal: the Intimate View. Someone recently asked me to answer the question, What is Love?

He came from a more technical perspective in his definition. But we all know that there is no place for thinking when it comes to love, right? Well is also made me remember how much I enjoyed writing that column... so if anyone has a question you would like me to answer or address, Bring It!

And for now, site back and enjoy this little ditty about Love... specifically, What Is Love?

xoxo Morgana

What Is Love

John wrote:
Morgana, you had written "real love is to have absolute concern for others... so anyone we have concern for, we love. It is so simple but we make it so complex with our attachments to the fears saying I don't love, because love is only this... or that... we have a lot of ways of expressing love. It's all good!" I've done plenty of thinking about what "real love" is. I have a few disagreements with your definition. I don't mean to put your opinion down or to say you are wrong. I just see a few things in the above paragraph that concern me.

I should begin by telling you that I have a BS degree in chemistry and I'm very analytical in my thinking. I tend to nitpick at theories and try to see the flaws in them. I tend to ask for proof and if none is present, I say "well then we aren't sure, now are we"? I think you know what I mean.

My understanding of "real love". First, I don't think you can say "absolute concern". The term implies a level not obtainable. If I have absolute concern for my wife, I cannot have absolute concern for my children, my dad, mom, and so on. "Absolute" leaves room for nothing else. For example, consider the known temperature "absolute zero." I think it's -459 degrees Fahrenheit. This is the temperature in which all atomic motion ceases. That is, all atoms come to a complete stop. They can't get any colder. So, when I hear/read "absolute" I think highest, most, the top, pinnacle, can't go any higher, any more, you see?

Love (toward another human) is an intense desire to see that person continue throughout their lifetime to grow spiritually (not necessarily religiously), but to find spiritual growth and enhancement. It is selfless (not selfish). Love MAY also be that feeling you get when you are very close to the higher power of the universe. Love might be God and God might be love. I can't prove it though.

Thanks for putting up with me. These have been the thoughts I have when I consider the definition of "love".

Morgana replied:

You spoke of love in the absolute or what I call a "black and white" terms. I see the meaning of absolute entirely different; I don't see "absolute" as final, although it can be one of its definitions. Love is not final by any means; it is the foundation and part of a continual process. Although there are many definitions of "absolute," here are the first five according to www.dictionary.com.

abásoálute 1.Perfect in quality or nature; complete.
2.Not mixed; pure. See Synonyms of pure.
3. a. Not limited by restrictions or exceptions; unconditional: absolute trust. b. Unqualified in extent or degree; total: absolute silence. See Usage Note at infinite. 4.Unconstrained by constitutional or other provisions: an absolute ruler.
5.Not to be doubted or questioned; positive: absolute proof. Absolute Philosophy. a. Something regarded as the ultimate basis of all thought and being. b. Something regarded as independent of and unrelated to anything else.

Do you have more than one child? If so, do you not have absolute, complete love for each of them? You mentioned your parents; don't you feel love for each of them? Let's look at this from another perspective, Are you creative AND intellectual; or only creative or intellectual? Can you be both and still able to continue to grow in each aspect?

Love and relationships teach us lessons towards self-actualization and growth; you may finish one phase, like graduating from high school; you go on to college, graduate from college but you can still get your masters, doctorate, even two, or as many as possible. Love is an education; there is never a limit on what we can learn. There is a infinite depth of understanding we can obtain with the lessons of the heart.

I asked my 17 year-old daughter, "What is love?" Her answer was, "Feelings, very strong feelings. They make me feel good and bad. Love is pain, like Ja Rule says in a song." So I asked, how is love painful? She answered, "Because the pain comes when the heart hurts." So I ask, "When does the heart hurt?" She said, "It depends. I love someone but I cannot be with him." So, Des... the heart hurts because you love, or because you cannot express, give, and receive the love you feel?

Everything we do is based on two things: love and what isn't. The essence of love is sharing, to be received, as well as given. The opposite of love is not hate, it is apathy... the lack of feeling at all or feelings denied. Denial does not mean it isn't real, only we choose not to acknowledge something's presence in our life.

Love is much more than a concept. Love is a verb, an energy, just like money, we earn it and spend it; its power moves through us, affecting decisions, stirring emotions, changing our reality. Love is not elation itself, but can offer a sense of exhilaration. You cannot hold it, see it, although we can see and hold someone or something; this is where the attachment to love gets defined as a noun. We may "like" ice cream, but the ice cream is not the "like" only the meaning the ice cream holds in our beliefs.

Individually, we possess feelings just as we own the choice to love. Unrequited love is a perfect example; the other person may not know of the feelings, or may not feel the same way; however, what is felt is very real indeed. In this case, love is not given, nor is it received; simply love is....

I enjoyed reading your ideal of love. Often, love gets misunderstand if there is a greater threat or fear of loss; many can feel threatened if a partner goes through changes or growth, fearing the partner will leave. In this co-dependent relationship, love defined as an object, rather than the expression of feelings. The ownership of feeling is transferred to another person, making us dependent on that person as the source.

When someone feels anger or jealousy, there is love present, and a fear of loss that is stronger, which is why we see possessiveness in relationships; when the fear of losing someone is stronger than self-love, love is tied in as an object, often using control as a means to keep the love there.

As far as my credentials, I have degrees in Psychology, Reiki, and Metaphysics. What has taught me the most is been my continuous education in life school. I have learned more through my relationships and the many lessons offered by my children, family, partnerships, and friends. I have undoubtedly learned the most through my mistakes! Where else in life can getting an "F" teach us so much?

Maybe through the process of learning what love isn't, that is where we find the true definition of what love is?